Monday, April 21, 2014
Guy Code Decoded: Sex
Admit it, we all think about it, we all talk about it, and we all want to be the best. Unfortunately, when our parents were giving us "The Talk" they failed to mention all of the things that really matter, like when is too soon actually too soon. Or how to tell if a guy just wants a sexual relationship. With mixed signals from society and guys, its hard to be confident in your sexuality. Women are told that we have to abide by all of these laws that governs the sexual world, but that's complete bullshit. I've teamed up with a few of my closest guy friends and together we came up with a few things ladies should keep in mind when it comes to sex.
1. How soon is too soon?
There's always some buzz about whether or not a girl should sleep with a guy on the first night. Well on the contrary, a lot of guys don't think to much into it. If it feels right, and if both parties are looking for the same type of relationship, then go for it. Just make sure that you know exactly what you're looking for and don't compromise. If you want a relationship and he doesn't ( and he's expresses this to you) then don't be butt hurt when he doesn't return your calls.
2. How long is he really willing to wait?
We all share the same fear that if we make a guy wait too long for sex, then he'll eventually end up leaving. That's not entirely true. Guys like the chase and if he sees something he really wants then he will wait on it. But don't be fooled because there is a possibility that while he's waiting on you, somebody else is giving up the goodies. If you feel ready then go for it. Never feel obligated to have sex with a guy because you want him to stick around, because if that's all you have to offer then he's not.
3.What if he starts acting different after sex?
So here you are, confused about what's going on in his head. You thought you guys were going strong but you notice little changes in the way he's been acting towards you. Honestly he probably never really saw much for the both of you. If things started off one way and are slowly turning into something else, then he's probably either bored and looking for something new, or someone else already has his attention.
So there you have it. The most important thing to remember is to keep an open line of communication between you and your guy. If he isn't mature enough to tell you what he wants then it's probably not a good idea to get involved with him anyway. Pay attention to the signs because they're always in your face.
Don't fuck yourself over by reacting off of scenarios you've created in your head. Guys aren't as complex as we make them. If you have any guy code questions that you would like answered email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Until next time,